In some circles the f-word appears in every other sentence. In other circles it’s looked on as crude and uncultured.
I would like to help you change how you think about the f-word, so it’s not scary to think about. I actually want it to help you achieve your goals.
If you’ve been reading this and wondering “How is the f-word going to help me reach my goals?”, then you’re probably thinking of the wrong f-word.
Failure. The f-word is failure.
Personally, I don’t really like the word because people have a lot of preconceived ideas about what it means. It’s a word that makes people feel bad about themselves.
It causes people to fear being judged by others, which prevents them from having the courage to take action.
But I want to change this perception.
The problem is that most of the time, when you think of someone as a failure, you also think of them as giving up or a loser. And that’s where this conversation really begins.
First, no one IS a failure.
Perhaps you may have attempted a task or activity that didn’t give you the result you wanted, but you, personally, are not “a failure”.
When you adopt a label for yourself, of course you end up finding new and creative ways to live up to that label! And who wants to be “a failure”??
Second, I have talked to so many people who have tried to get fit or lose weight, or both, and time after time I hear, “I tried but it just doesn’t work for me.”
Notice the past tense of the word, “tried”?
That’s the thing you want to avoid: using past tense.
In fact, I don’t even like the word “try”. Remember Yoda? “Do or do not; there is no try.”
Some Jedi wisdom there that is applicable to all our lives, in everything we do.
How many times have you “tried”? What got in your way? What blocked you from achieving your goal?
Right now, let’s just talk about what it means to keep starting over.
When you keep starting over, it means you no longer think in the past tense, but use the present tense.
You get to reconsider the word “failure”. In fact, if the word “failed” makes you feel bad, don’t even use it!
Take it out of your vocabulary – today – and start saying things like, “Every day, I am getting better and better at my fitness goals!”
Here are a couple of affirmations you can say to yourself. They will help you feel great and stay focused on the best way to achieve your goals.
“I am getting better and better at saying ‘no’ to foods I know are not good for me. Sometimes I make a mistake, but I don’t beat myself up about it, but get right back on the program the next meal.”
“I know that every day is a new day, and I can pick myself up and start over again every day. In fact, every day I get to start over. Yesterday is in the past, and now, today, I get to make new choices that help me feel healthier and better about myself.”
Do you see what I’m doing here? I’m using the present tense. I’m showing incremental change that makes me feel good about myself, and I’m not talking about failure. I’m also not focusing on the end result, but on the process that happens every single day.
I want you to try this for yourself. Write down an affirmation that you can look at every day. Make sure it is in the present tense and it encourages you to continue to stay with the program that you’ve chosen in order to reach your goals. I would love to hear from you, so feel free to leave a comment.
You have no idea how much this will help you!
So, I’m serious. STOP what you’re doing right now, write a couple of sentences you’re going to use – starting right now – that help you feel good, are in present tense, and that focus on the process. You can even use what I’ve given you above. I don’t care if you swipe it and use it.
About the Author:
Hi, I’m Josh Davidson, owner of Personal Training Institute of Fort Wayne. I have been involved in health and fitness for over 7 years. I would love to help you start living a healthy lifestyle. You can learn more about my staff and I as well as how we can help you feel better by calling 260-338-2022 or visiting our website here. If you’re looking to start on your fitness journey now, sign up for a free consultation and workout today!